12/21/25

Lady Kitty asked me, “Do you want to play Rock Shop? You don’t need to help me, but you can and I would like it.”

*Tug Tug*

I do not recall what I was doing in that moment of the Rock Shop invitation, or how I responded to the *Tug*. I just found this scrap of paper whilst cleaning up a few tidbits. I still try to jot down quotes when I can, to preserve the particularities of the kids’ precocious sayings. Nonetheless, many slip by. I think I will remember and write it down later, but I can barely remember by that evening, or by an even slimmer margin of possibility the next day.

I do not recall what I was doing in that moment of the Rock Shop invitation, or how I responded to the *Tug*. The days and what they encompass of parenting have a funny way of distorting time. Distress amplifies some moments and days seem to leapfrog in a blur from one challenge to the next. Meanwhile, time overall collapses; where did it go? Each beautiful moment is presented as an offering before vanishing. How do I remind myself to cherish the present moment, again and again and again? It is here, Dear Reader, where I reflect with gratitude, that perspectives can shift. Precious exchanges can be relished and hardships relinquished. Sharing the interactions that brought me bemusement and warmth allows me to savor the connection once more.

I do not recall what I was doing in that moment of the Rock Shop invitation, or how I responded to the *Tug*. My photo library references these images from three days prior. I sure hope I said “yes” to my darling, and responded with a hug.

I do not recall what I was doing in that moment of the Rock Shop invitation, or how I responded to the *Tug*. I can say I’m trying to say “yes” more consciously. Even if it is “yes” to only a few minutes of reading or playing, or a qualified “when… then…” “yes.” Ultimately, I’ve noticed simply saying “yes” brings a tingle of connection for both of us. At the end of the day, at the end of a life, that’s all we really wanted: to feel connected, validated, and like we belonged. So, “Yes, Love, I would like to play. I would like that too.” Thank you for extending a bid for connection. Thank you for your vulnerability and authenticity. Thank you for giving me permission to slow down. I’m honored to be your mum. A perfect day, I’m glad I spent it with you.